Real Love vs. Imitation Love: Lessons for Enduring Relationships
In a culture captivated by a highly emotional vision of romantic love, we sometimes overlook the quiet, patient, resilient work that real and enduring love requires. Love is not simply an emotion that...
View ArticleThe Challenge of Choosing Joy
Father Lehi taught that “Adam fell that men might be; and men are, that they might have joy” (2 Nephi 2:25). But if joy is our very reason for existing, why is it often so elusive for so many? Many...
View ArticleHow God Restores What the Years Have Taken
Colonel Wesley L. Fox said, “You are never too old to start over.” Many middle-aged and older singles struggle to believe that. My first marriage effectively ended at Christmas 2008. I spend four hours...
View ArticleFrom Pain to Peace: The Journey to Emotional Healing After Divorce
During close to a decade in the singles community, and in the four years since Cathy and I published Intentional Courtship, I have consistently observed that new divorcees (me included) spend a lot of...
View ArticleThe Heart’s Deception: Why Love is a Choice—Not Just a Feeling
In his 1983 hit song “What is Love?” Howard Jones posed an important question: What is love and why does it matter? The common answer for my dating partners and other mid-singles I met during my...
View ArticleBraving Love Again: Healing From Heartbreak and Embracing Connection
The story of the very first man and the first woman includes a declaration by the Lord that “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him” (Genesis 2:18). We are...
View ArticleLost it All? How to Rebuild Financial Stability After Divorce
In an article entitled Suze Orman’s Post-Divorce Guide to Personal Finance, Suze Orman wrote, “When you have the strength and determination to face the facts, you can achieve anything. It’s when we run...
View ArticleThe Unique Challenges of Latter-day Saint Mid-Single Men
Excerpts from Chapter 6 of the book Intentional Courtship: A Mid-Singles Guide to Peace, Progress, and Pairing Up in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. The Difficulty of Divorce and...
View ArticleHave You Missed Your Chance?
One of the most persistent beliefs I have observed among middle-aged Latter-day Saint singles is that they have missed their chance. Many believe they have “blown it” through poor choices of their own...
View ArticleNeil Peart: A Legendary Drummer’s Example of Rebuilding Life After Loss
Cover image via Wikimedia Commons. Neil Peart is, in my opinion, the greatest rock & roll drummer that ever lived. In fact, on my list, number two is way off. Peart was the drummer for the iconic...
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